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Our capacity for self-deception is staggering.

 

The busyness of doing more is used as a badge of honour; the message is :

if you do more, you ARE more.

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This is the sickness of our day and I know it intimately.

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Just because you are able to juggle more without breaking…

 doesn’t mean you should.

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And just because you seem to do it flawlessly, doesn’t mean there isn’t a price to pay physically, mentally, spiritually, & emotionally.

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Most of us suck at “being”.  We need to get better at it.

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We value and celebrate “doing” so deeply that many of us rest our identity and self-worth in our productivity.

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We all pretend it isn’t us, but I will admit it. 

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In my quite moments, I will accept that my identity and self worth are deeply entrenched in what I am “doing” and how productive I am.

 

Because I feel like I am more if I do more,I also feel the pull to always be doing – at work, at home, in my marriage, as a person.

And I believe this is both the sickness of our day and the sickness that precedes all others.

At some point it has to be enough.

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At some point we have to rest.

 

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This is the allure of “Dolce far Niente” for me…

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no thank you

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‘dolce far niente’ is what the Italians describe as “the sweetness of doing nothing”…the ability to completely enjoy & savour doing absolutely nothing.

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Nada. Zilch. Niente! 

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It is sometimes called “delicious idleness” – and what a beautiful concept – doesn’t it make you melt ?

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dolce far niente #sweetness

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The irony is I have to work really hard at it in order to be successful and that is a sobering realization. 

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I suspect most of us are in the same boat.

{ row, row, row your boat… }

Ok. I’m back.

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I can sum up how I have done in my quest to master this delicious idleness by telling you I suck at it.  

{I don’t know how to do nothing, let alone find it delicious.}

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Doing “nothing” mean something different for all of us. 

Maybe for you it means the stuff that isn’t on your to-do list

…the stuff that doesn’t make your mind race.

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..the stuff that allows you to feel joy and rest in a way that fills you back up again.

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design the life you want to live .

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Most of us have caught glimpses of our own version of delicious idleness, sometimes for longer periods of time (on vacation, for example).  

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And while relaxing on vacation is a healthy, wonderful thing

…it is not ‘dolce far niente’

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#relax #savour #enjoy #breathe

Do you know what it means for you?.

 

Just look around – we are a very stressed, depressed, overweight, frustrated, self-medicated, lost nation.  

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And often, we are choosing this.

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Until our bodies or minds or families break down in some way, we believe we are handling it all, but don’t fool yourself- there will be impact.

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The weight of evidence behind the impact stress has on our bodies, minds, hearts, and loved ones, (and a dozen other things) is staggering and so is our capacity for self-deception around this entire topic.

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{ Seriously. Go back and click on the word “evidence” in the paragraph you just read. It will blown your mind }

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And I include myself; it is not a criticism of everyone else.

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If we are being honest, we will admit we all suffer to some degree and we all point the finger.

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Hey.

Don’t you know it’s rude to point?

I’ll break that finger, you know…

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We compare ourselves to people who are busier and more out-of-control and then rank ourselves a bit better on the “doing” yardstick so we feel more evolved and better about our choices.

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It is difficult to look in the mirror and admit we choose this path;

I suspect I will always struggle with my dolce far niente. 

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I accept this reality for myself but I also desperately want to know deep joy and peace throughout my day and not just on vacation.

…so I will practice delicious idleness.

Of course, we will find ourselves in seasons of life where being busy is our reality and not something we have much control over.  

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But, more often we get caught up in doing because we haven’t defined how much is enough. 

We have made the choice to value doing above being and the truth is

we need both.

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There is honour in building ourselves a good life, working hard, and providing for the people we L.O.V.E…but most of us crave permission to just stop and accept that we do enough, have enough, and are enough.

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We are starving for a taste of delicious idleness.

 

Feed yourself.

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