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Live fully. #love well. age gracefully. #authentic #beauty

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There is something very powerful about understanding the motivation for our behaviour; it brings perspective & objectivity in a way that helps us grow.

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Sometimes we make life more complicated than it has to be …

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Our connection to people we love carries us through the peaks and valleys of life

…especially when the valleys are long or painful.

Cultivating healthy relationships will change your life.

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love carries all

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Years ago a friend of mine gave me a book that changed everything about the way I see relationships and love ….

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If you want more authentic, honest relationships I recommend this book … it is the kind of book that helps relationships even if they don’t feel broken. .

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The concept of the book, The 5 Love Languages,  is actually very simple.

Written by Dr. Gary Chapman, it walks through 5 common ways people give & receive love.

(One of the things I’ve learned the hard way is that we tend to love people the way we want to be loved.)

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 Dr. Chapman outlines 5 ways we give and receive love:

Acts of Service

Physical touch (affection)

Quality Time

Receiving Gifts

Words of Affirmation

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one way or another

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Now, imagine your preference is to be loved with “acts of service” and your spouse prefers “physical touch/affection”.

Your spouse, in an attempt to love you well, is very affectionate with you because that is how he/she receives love. But you feel loved when your spouse cleans the kitchen.

At some point that misunderstanding will likely become an issue, maybe even a huge issue.

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.You may be thinking you feel loved in all of those ways…this is true for most of us; we are all a mix of all five love languages to some degree or another…but, if you want to know your dominant one, look at how you love other people.

THAT is probably your love language.

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Some relationships are easy and don’t require work because both individuals give and receive love similarly; some feel like more work because they don’t speak the same language.

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My relationship felt like work, until this book helped me see differently.

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If we truly want to love people well, we need to know how they receive love.

 

I have learned so much about my children, my family, & my friends by watching the way they love others…and I am better at loving them because of it.

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