What Makes YOU Uniquely Beautiful ?

What Makes YOU Uniquely Beautiful ?

guess who i am

YOU.

not a pitch, I really am.

(excited to have a publisher on board already-still doing my happy dance. eek!)

** ( click here for a video link if you don’t feel like reading ) **

 

It’s a book about what makes you unique, about what makes you beautiful. 

Not through the eyes of others, but through your own.

 

It’s a book about #beauty as you define it, not as it is defined by the multibillion dollar marketing machine that loves to air brush & edit so heavily we’ve forgotten how to behold our own beauty. .

 

beauty .

And I want you to be in it – will you?

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beyoutiful .

What is BE-YOU-TIFUL about you?

( a tough question for some. let’s practice answering it )

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The shape of your hands?

A particular feature on your face?

Your courage?

A scar from an experience that gave you new perspective?

Your freckles?

The sound of your voice? 

The way you hug someone?

The way you laugh?

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Maybe it’s unique because it tells a story….

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.cate mirror

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What do you really see when you look in the mirror?  

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I’ll break the ice and go first, trusting so many of you will relate.

( ps, feeling a little naked-and pasty white-but here goes…)

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If I am being completely honest, sometimes I don’t like what I see.

I am too critical of myself and I know it.

 

Sometimes, I see my past mistakes & pain when I look in the mirror.

Sometimes, I don’t see my face, but rather the tenderness & love in my eyes and I feel like my heart might explode.

 

some days i feel strong

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… and then I think, “what would I say to my children or a friend?”.

I would say: you were created perfectly imperfect and you are magnificent creature, exactly as you are.

I would say: don’t waste one minute on this stuff because it isn’t important.  

 

seeing myself through new eyes

I have always hated my nose (hang on, it gets better. promise)

I used to see it as odd shaped & large.

But in the last few years I have come to find it beautiful

(and not for the reasons you may think).

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One of my fondest memories of when our babies were teeny tiny was the way their little heads used to smell as I held them; the smell was so uniquely beautiful and it didn’t matter how exhausted I was, it always made me smile.

 The thought of it still brings tears to my eyes. 

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I have so many wonderful memories triggered by certain smells, like… 

* fresh baked bread

* my husband’s cologne

* my grandmother’s pressed powder

* campfire on my clothes

(And I know I’m not alone in this because our daughter asks my husband to spray a shirt before he goes away so she can sleep with it.)

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But as I grow up (haha) I realize how grateful I am for a healthy body, heart, and mind – and now my nose is included on the list.

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…so I pierced it – but that’s another story! 

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seuss

( that Dr. Seuss knew a thing or two about life )

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What is uniquely beautiful about you? Name it. It feels awesome. 

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Comparison really is the thief of joy. We all do it. It’s exhausting. Let’s stop.

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comparison is the thief of joy

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Instead, let’s…

recognize and honour

 

So, that’s where you come in.

 

Will you let me tell your story?

Will you grace the pages of this book with so many others?

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If this isn’t your thing but you know someone who would like to be part of this, please forward this post.

I would appreciate that very much…

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Or drop me a line at cate@catemoore.ca or click here

 

interested in finished product

 

 

 


 

20 Comments

  1. Hi Cate,
    I think I told you before I love your blog. Today’s one was especially good because I have spent my whole life as a teen and adult beating myself up about how Im not good enough, not pretty enough, not skinny enough not anything enough.
    I had eating disorders and it is something that just really is hard to get out of your head.
    But today, I decided to not let that part of my brain take over and thought about what makes me beautiful.
    So this is what I think.
    Physically, I love my eyes. I think they have a nice shape and they are my best feature. I love that I am strong and have a strong body. I work hard for that.
    But I think when I really think about it and if I had to ask my husband what makes me beautiful, its not how I look. Its that he can trust me, that I love the people I love with everything I have. That I am strong inside and resilient and dont give up. People make fun of me because I cry easily, but I dont think that is a weakness. I actually embrace the fact that I allow things to affect me emotionally. I dont want to live a hard, unemotional life. I dont cry always for sad things. Just sometimes, when something affects me that deeply, there is no other way to express it.
    Anyhow, I am sure I could think of better ways to describe the above, but I want to thank you for letting me start my day thinking something good about myself instead of looking for what is wrong.
    :)
    Elisabeth

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    • I loved your honest and gentle comment Elizabeth. My eyes leaked a little bit when I read it because I cry easily too and it’s comforting to know there’s someone else like that – like you! – and just feeling that comfort made my cry a tiny bit.
      I had bulimia and know what you mean about that it’s hard to shift that stuff in your head. For me it was such an intense anger at my body for not being good enough. That’s sad. Comparing to others, always is on the tip of my mind.
      But you inspired me to give this Cate-challenge a go. It’s not just thinking about what makes me beautiful, but writing it down for others to read – that’s what I think is the challenge.
      I think that what is beautiful about me is my eyes. My deep and watery sense of the world, where things touch me and move me in a deep way is something I think I can see that in my eyes (which are a clear grey-blue). When I was a kid I thought I had blue eyes because I loved looking at the sky, and that made me feel special.
      Thanks again for making your comments.
      Paula

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      • Thank you for taking the time to respond, Paula. I am so moved by your words. I think it takes so much courage to admit the things we like to hide. I admire your courage and your heart. And if would like to chat more about your story (and perhaps being in the book) please let me know. xo

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    • Thank you, Elisabeth. I feel very intensely – much like you and only in the last couple of years have I realized that I am grateful to be deeply affected. We are very lucky. I know people who don’t seem to feel much and I feel bad for them. Truth. xo

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  2. You are sooooo BE-YOU-TIFUL Cate!!! This idea is FABULOUS and I’m very proud of you!!! Way to go!! We need to love ourselves more for sure!! xoxo

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    • AWWWW…thank you Christine! I could kiss you! (in the words of @lynneknowlton) ;)

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  3. This is a wonderful idea! I think every one of us goes through times in our life where we are too hyper critical of our looks, our achievements etc. It took and is still taking me a lifetime to come to terms with my height (I am quite tall at 5’11) and when I see my daughter on her way to be my height, I want to make sure she has a different perspective than I did growing up.

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    • It is especially beautiful when we (mothers) can give to our daughters perspective we never had. xo

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  4. What an amazing journey to write a book! I know it will be so inspirational!! Best of luck with it…I can’t wait to read it!

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    • Thanks Jo-Anna! I am super excited! xo

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  5. Such an important topic! As I grow older, I don’t welcome the physical aging process with open arms per se, but mentally and emotionally I am so much stronger, and it has allowed me to take it in stride. Appearance plays such an important part in a young girl’s life (and sometimes those much older), and it would be so amazing if she figured out early on that it’s just a piece of who she is, not the real essence. So many gifts and talents beyond the physical!

    What a wonderful gift this book (and your work) will be to anyone who is struggling with self image (we all do at times) or anything else for that matter. Can’t wait to read it!

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    • Thank you Shauna! I am so excited and a bit scared. I am surrounded by the most fabulous, uniquely beautiful people -inside and out. And I am so grateful. Thank you for taking the time to post on the blog. xo

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  6. I really admire you for being such a great writer. My skills are terrible. Very excited for you!

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    • Hi Virginia! I so relate to your comment. I struggle with “how” to write all the time, so I decided to just write the way I talk. I figure I’ll just keep practicing. ;)

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  7. Wonderful concept for a book Cate. So great that you have a publisher lined up–looking forward to reading it. Will stay in touch, Marion

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    • Thank you so much, Marion. Soooo appreciate your support! :)

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  8. Sounds like an exciting and much needed project. Just reading your questions to me made me choke a little. Goes to show I have a long way to go in recognizing my beauty. I’m sure many women feel this way. Looking forward to hearing about your progress as you put this together.

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    • I struggle with the same stuff, Dani. I think seeing ourselves through fresh eyes is a gift. Thank you for the blog love! xo

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  9. What makes me uniquely beautiful… I don’t know the answer to that question. I really and truly don’t! That makes me knida sad, more than kinda actually! I am now challenged to look at that question and ask myself what makes me uniquely beautiful? Thank-you for sharing your strengths and your weaknesses, you inspire!

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    • I don’t think that makes you sad…I think it means you haven’t thought about it specifically. Most of us are in the same boat. But, it is an interesting question, isn’t it? Would love to hear what you come up with if you feel like sharing! xo

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